Wow! Here it’s almost Fall and I am sending my first born off to college and the others are preparing for back to school. To me, it is funny, to think that we spend all these years putting knowledge in to children’s brains and less time helping them build better pathways to deal with conflict, challenges and obstacles that will naturally come their way.
Did you know that your brain learns best through failure? You know we would never think about stopping a baby from learning to walk no matter how many times she fell because we KNOW it is possible to walk.
With obstacles, challenges or conflict you run in to you need to build, for your brain, the confidence that it is POSSIBLE to solve this easily. You want to believe the best intentions and then hold people accountable for living up to those best intentions. This means you call them out when they act in appropriately as you assume their intent is not to act out at you but instead to try and protect themselves.
Today’s situation is all about dealing with that person who walks over others and can make you feel like mush.
By the way, if you work with many people like this, I encourage you to look in to our Managing Your Message Session (there is one in September) so you can get a better grasp at how to message things and manage that person or look in to our Executive Coaching which will focus on helping you build the Executive Presence you need so that you can manage the atmosphere every time you enter a room or a conversation. It is like bringing in your own serenity blanket!
Enjoy the Fall and all the changes it brings. Just like our kids, we should always be putting ourselves back “in school” to make sure we mold, stretch and align our brains to make sure we mold, stretch and align our brains to better deal with an ever changing world.